My nephew is getting married in September. His fiancee is a lovely lady, and I’ve no doubt they’ll be very happy together. His Mum and Dad are of course overjoyed that they’re finally making it official, as they’ve been together for several years.
As their wedding is being planned in all its painstaking detail, it reminds me of my own wedding. It was one of the most stressful experiences of my life, and a good test of our relationship. Looking back, a lot of the stress was caused by a lack of appreciation of what we both wanted out of the event. It was only as the planning ensued, that we really understood what was important to us.
Looking back, a lot of the stress was caused by a lack of appreciation of what we both wanted the event to be. It was only as the planning ensued that we really understood what was important to us. Then of course there was the realisation that our special day wouldn’t be quite as perfect as we’d originally envisioned. Why, because of the compromises we had to make for one reason or another.
Then there were both our families. It is naive to think that your big day is solely about you. Both our families were super supportive, but we became experts at walking on eggshells at times. The fact that great Aunt Bettie just had to be invited, despite the fact that she lived in Australia, was unable to travel, and you hadn’t met her in 30 years. Throw in the issues with the reception seating plan, with Joe still refusing to speak to his half sister, and whether to put your aunt Mary and her second husband anywhere near her first.
Looking back on things, it was a fun day. People enjoyed themselves, despite the caterers nearly dropping the cake on the floor, and my cousin destroying the garden fence of a garden across the road from the church, after they left the hand break off their car!
In the here and now, we can laugh at all things that didn’t go according to plan. At the end of the day, none of that stuff matters. Here we are 13 years later happier than we ever were. We’ve mellowed and come to appreciate exactly why we both made that leap of faith. And if I want a reminder of why I’m so happy we met, I just need to look at pictures like this.